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Narcissistic rage is an intense, often disproportionate emotional reaction — ranging from cold contempt and silent punishment to explosive anger — triggered by a perceived threat to the narcissist's self-image, control, or sense of superiority.

Narcissistic supply is the external attention, admiration, validation, or emotional reaction that a narcissist depends on to maintain their self-image and regulate their sense of worth — because they lack the internal capacity to do this without constant reinforcement from others.

Triangulation is a manipulation tactic in which a narcissist introduces a third party — a person, a group, or even an implied comparison — into a two-person dynamic in order to create jealousy, insecurity, competition, or a sense that your position in the relationship is conditional and must be earned.

Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome is not a formal diagnosis in the DSM-5, but the psychological harm it describes — chronic self-doubt, hypervigilance, identity erosion, and trauma symptoms resulting from sustained narcissistic abuse — is clinically real, well-documented, and most accurately captured under the diagnosis of Complex PTSD.

If you are asking "am I the narcissist," the fact that you're asking is itself significant clinical information — people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder rarely question whether they are the problem.

The grey rock method is a protective strategy for interacting with a narcissist when no contact or low contact isn't possible — it involves becoming as emotionally neutral, uninteresting, and unreactive as a grey rock, reducing the narcissistic supply you provide and, ideally, reducing their interest in targeting you.

Hoovering is a manipulation tactic in which a narcissist attempts to re-establish contact and pull someone back into a relationship after a period of distance, conflict, or discard — using whatever approach is most likely to work on that specific person, whether that's affection, guilt, crisis, or anger.

I specialize in narcissistic abuse recovery because it sits at the intersection of two things I've spent my entire career working with: complex trauma and the ways people lose — and rebuild — trust in their own perception.

Flying monkeys are people who act on behalf of a narcissist — carrying messages, gathering information, applying pressure, or harassing the narcissist's target — often without fully understanding they are being used to do so.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which someone causes another person to question their own memory, perception, or judgment — typically by denying that events occurred, insisting the other person is remembering incorrectly, or reframing harmful behavior as the other person's fault or oversensitivity.